Caring for a loved one with dementia or Alzheimer’s can bring unexpected challenges. Knowing what to do when your loved one becomes confused, upset, or resistant to care can help families respond with greater patience and confidence. This practical SOS guide provides simple steps for common caregiving situations while helping Chicago families understand the importance of planning for changing care needs and costs.

A practical SOS guide for caregivers with simple “what to do” tips for handling common dementia and Alzheimer’s caregiving challenges and planning ahead for future care.

When Dementia Caregiving Feels Overwhelming, Remember SOS

Caring for someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease can be rewarding, but it can also be challenging. Changes in memory, communication, behavior, and independence may create situations that caregivers do not always know how to handle.

Your loved one may repeatedly ask the same question, refuse to take a shower, become confused in the evening, or become upset over something that seems small.

When these moments happen, remember:

S — Stay Calm
O — Observe
S — Support

SOS #1: “They Keep Asking the Same Question”

If your loved one repeatedly asks, “When are we going home?” try not to become frustrated.

They may not remember that they already asked.

What to do: Give a short, reassuring response such as:

“You’re safe. We’re staying here for now, and I’m here with you.”

Then redirect their attention to a familiar activity, such as looking at family photos, listening to music, or having a snack.

Avoid saying, “I already told you.” Correcting them repeatedly may increase their frustration.

SOS #2: “They Refuse to Take a Shower”

A loved one may refuse personal care because they are embarrassed, cold, uncomfortable, afraid of falling, or simply confused about what is happening.

What to do: Avoid forcing the situation. Break the task into smaller steps.

Instead of:

“You need to take a shower.”

Try:

“Let’s get your towel ready.”

Give them time and allow them to maintain as much independence and privacy as possible.

SOS #3: “They Become Confused in the Evening”

Some people with dementia experience increased confusion or restlessness later in the day.

What to do: Keep an evening routine, reduce noise, provide good lighting, and use a calm voice.

Instead of arguing, provide reassurance:

“You’re safe. I’m here with you.”

If confusion or behavior changes suddenly or significantly, contact their healthcare provider.

SOS #4: “They Try to Leave the House”

Wandering can create a serious safety concern.

What to do: Stay with your loved one if they are at immediate risk and try gentle redirection. Families should also prepare a safety plan, keep a recent photo available, and discuss emergency steps with everyone involved in care.

Planning Ahead for the Rising Cost of Care

Dementia care can change over time. A loved one who needs only occasional assistance today may require daily or more comprehensive support later.

Families may need to plan for expenses beyond caregiver hours, including transportation, medications, personal care supplies, meals, home safety improvements, and respite support.

Planning early gives Chicago families more time to understand their options, discuss responsibilities, and prepare financially before a crisis occurs.

Professional home care may also become part of the plan as needs increase.

You Don’t Have to Handle It Alone

Assisting Hands Chicago North provides in-home care support for seniors and families, including Dementia & Alzheimer’s Care, Companion Care, Personal Care, Respite Care, Post-Hospitalization Care, and 24-Hour & Live-In Care.

The right care plan can change as your loved one’s needs change.

If you are caring for someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s in Chicago or the surrounding area, consider starting the conversation early.

Stay calm. Observe the situation. Support your loved one. And most importantly, plan ahead.

Need help understanding your family’s home care options? Contact Assisting Hands Chicago North to learn how personalized in-home care can support your loved one and your family.

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