Good conversations with elderly parents often start with questions that encourage reminiscing. Seniors possess a wealth of knowledge, wisdom, and life history—which should ideally be shared with younger generations. Also, studies show that reminiscing benefits the elderly as it helps them preserve family history, improves their quality of life, and reduces symptoms of depression. Adult children and other family members can begin to open the door to seniors’ rich life histories by asking these 20 questions.

1. What was your proudest achievement?

Elderly parents are likely to be proud of a career, raising their children well, or other accomplishments. Adult children might inquire about the proudest moments of their parents’ lives. The senior will be transported back to those moments and relive them with zeal.

2. Who influenced you the most?

Many people are influenced by someone they admire, whether a teacher, a spouse, a public figure, or a friend. Aging parents may have been motivated to pursue a dream via the influence of a special someone. Probe into the senior’s past and uncover the identity of the influential individual.

3. How did you meet Mom/Dad?

When asking this question, bring along a family photo album, ideally one that contains photos of the parents’ wedding. The conversation that follows will take the parent back to joyful times. Include the grandchildren in the chat, so that family histories are preserved.

4. What made you happiest?

Knowing what sent a parent into rapture can sometimes be replicated in the present. Perhaps traveling in bygone days gave the senior an opportunity to see the world, inciting joy. Introduce armchair travels so the senior can travel again, but without leaving home.

5. How did your career shape your character?

Military careers are known to develop character strengths. If the parent was in the military, ask about how his character strengths of leadership, persistence, teamwork, bravery, and curiosity were tested. The parent’s fairness, perspective and self-regulation may also have been shaped by his career.

6. How did you have fun as a youth?

Bring in the grandkids for this question, as they may glean how generations in the past entertained themselves. Elderly parents may have sought out good times that still persist in younger generations, such as going out for ice cream, watching movies, or playing sports.

7. What sports did you play in school?

Even if the elderly parent was not a professional athlete, the answer to this question can inspire younger generations. Grandchildren may feel proud that grandpa was a star baseball player in high school. During the conversation, the parent will gladly relive those moments of stardom.

8. & 9. What was your favorite subject? What was school like?

Not all seniors were athletes in their younger years. If Mom or Dad was academically oriented, ask what was his or her favorite subject. Dig deeper and discover what school was like in decades past. Grandchildren listening will learn how life was lived without technology.

10. & 11. Who were your childhood friends? Where are they now?

Seniors will have the chance to reminisce about the joy of childhood friendships during the conversation. Certain names may pop up. Ask if these friends still live in the same neighborhood. A visit to the senior’s old childhood friend will be a well-anticipated event.

12. & 13. Did you receive an allowance? How did you spend it?

A nickel for a chore might have been standard in decades past. Ask the senior parent if she received an allowance and how much. Listeners may be surprised by what a nickel could buy in those days. Find out how the senior spent her allowance.

14. & 15. Do you recall the popular hairstyles of youth? What were the clothing fads?

Signature hairstyles and clothing fads change with each decade. An elderly parent, especially one who was fashionable in her youth, will enjoy reminiscing about the glamorous times of days past. Have fun conversations about poodle skirts, bobs, and bellbottom pants.

16. & 17. What world events were most pivotal for you? How did they impact your life?

Serious conversations can also be good ones. The fall of the Berlin Wall or the massacre at Tiananmen Square may have left an indelible mark on a parent’s conscience. Ask how these world events changed the parent’s outlook or impacted her life.

18. & 19. What technologies are most helpful? Which are the least helpful?

Direct a conversation to the present day, where technology dominates. Find out what devices the senior finds most useful in everyday life. Endeavor to introduce those technologies to make life easier. Also learn which technologies do little to improve the senior’s life and remove those.

20. How do you want family and friends to remember you?

Most people want to leave behind a legacy. Elderly parents, too, may have a desire to be remembered in a specific way. A large percentage of aging adults want to be remembered for the values, life lessons, and memories shared with loved ones.

The lives of adult children and grandchildren will be enriched by having regular, good conversations with elderly parents. The aforementioned questions are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to triggering joyful memories. When adult children live far away, seniors should still reminisce on a regular basis.

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In addition, our professional caregivers support seniors with all the activities of daily living. We assist seniors with personal hygiene tasks, prepare meals, provide transportation to doctor’s offices or senior centers, perform light housekeeping, provide mobility assistance, and give timely medication reminders.

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